As a tantric masseuse, I’ve met some incredible people—connections I never would have made otherwise. 99.9% of my clients have been kind, respectful, and genuine. But, as with any profession, there have been occasional bad apples.

While my negative in-person experiences have been limited (thanks to my strong filtering process), there are a few encounters I’d rather delete from my memory. If you’re a new client and I seem overly cautious, it’s not personal—it’s just years of safety measures kicking in. ;))
When Trust is Stolen
One of my most disappointing experiences was with a young, shy client I’d seen regularly for over a year. He was socially awkward and very insecure, and I genuinely wanted to help him build confidence and we never had any issues together. After our last session, I left him alone in the studio for a moment.
He took the opportunity to steal half the cash he’d paid me. I only realised later, and it was devastating to know someone I’d trusted could do that. It's safe to say that he’s no longer welcome with me or my colleagues.
Boundary Breaker
A high-profile regular client thought his status gave him a free pass to push boundaries. Despite me helping him book escorts to meet his additional desires, he’d still ocasionally request services not on my menu. Things eventually escalated when he crossed a major line, and I refused to see him again. But he didn’t accept this easily and even once showed up at my door uninvited. It took some very firm words to make him leave—and thankfully, he hasn’t returned.
Fake Facebook and a Silly Lie
Another returning client once told me he’d read online that I offered services I absolutely do not (specifically: bj).. He said he had seen someone post about this online...? When I asked for proof, he sent a Facebook post screenshot. The plot twist? He didn’t notice the screenshot showed the website's header- showing the post was created on a fake generator site! After I pointed this out, he disappeared in embarrassment and I have not seen him since. Talk about going the extra extra mile to get a bj, huh ...
The No-Show Nightmare
One Friday, a client booked a 5:30 PM session. He confirmed in the morning as agreed and messaged at 5:15 saying he was walking from the station—a six-minute walk or 10/15 mins if you are on a panda speed. By 5:40, nothing. I called at 5:50 with no answer. Perhaps some odd time waster? I started preparing for my 7:30 session and decided to not give this individual any more of my time. Then, at 6:30 he claimed he’d gone to the wrong area (Whitechapel) and was now nearby, but his story made no sense whatsoever. He claimed he had no internet and got lost (but was clearly using WhatsApp). When I said I was uncomfortable with the whole story and refused to see him, he unleashed a torrent of very nasty verbal abuse, followed by a series of abusive texts. Later, I learned from my network that this man had a history of similar behaviour, including threats and stalking. He had also done the exact same thing to a colleague of mine prior to this. I’m just grateful I trusted my gut in the end...
When the Wolf Wore a Suit
A colleague once discovered a regular client of hers had secretly filmed her and 18 other women during sessions in various London hotels. He was a MET police detective who used hidden cameras in tissue boxes, glasses and other items. Thankfully, he was caught by one of the girls (after he had gotten away with it for YEARS!) and sentenced to three years, but the damage he caused was immense. This case made quite a few headlines a couple of years back... Last time I heard, poor boy Neil wasn't doing so well in prison - but I won't be losing my sleep over that anytime soon..
These stories are the exception, not the rule, but they’ve shaped how I approach new clients. My caution isn’t personal—it’s about maintaining a safe, respectful space for both of us. :))
To my wonderful clients, thank you for your kindness and trust. And to anyone who might test boundaries, please think twice. Respect is non-negotiable.